Reflection of the past month

(Not edited for grammer miskaest) LOL…but seriously This is a free-write, so there may be a few grammar errors/mistakes.

So a lot has transpired in the past few months. Things are really improving at St. Matthew AME, worship has gotten much better, my preaching has got better, and old members are starting to come back. I’m really excited about the worship though. There is a lot that still needs to be done here at the church and in the community, I’m just asking the Lord to guide me, send help, send help, and anoint the ministry at our church.

I’ve also gotten married, yep May 26, 2012 I married my love, Erica M. McAfee. A brother is blessed, sho nuff! We did a cruise for our honeymoon, which took us to Grand Cayman Islands and Cozumel, Mexico. We had a blast on the cruise.

Not only am I married now, but I’m also about to be a father. WOW!! I’m excited to be a soon-to-be father, but I’m also very nervous about what it means to be a father. I’m excited though!! Erica and I are both excited! It goes to show that the Lord will surely give you what you ask for. I have my lovely bride, child on the way, and a church….you can keep the dog and the picket fence, I’m good!

-RevBmack

Can these Bones Live? The Multi-Ethnic Church

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Recently I’ve been thinking about the possibility of leading a multicultural and multi-ethnic church in an urban area. When I first expressed the idea to my fiancé, her first thought was much like mine, “How can you do that? Don’t you need a White, Hispanic, Asian, or wife of another ethnicity?” I don’t know, do I? Now, I’ll be honest, I don’t have any hardcore statistics at my disposal right now to quote, but I do have my opinions, observations, and experiences to draw from. With that being the case, it seems as if pastors of African descent who happen to be in a monocultural marriage, have a very difficult time attracting, retaining, and leading other ethnicities, especially our White brothers and sisters.

Do people of other ethnicities, especially Whites trust Black leaders to shepherd them? Well before I go there, how about this, do they trust black leadership in general? Let’s use President Obama for example, while it may be only one example, I think it is a glaring one. President Obama has arguably been the most disrespected and undermined president in our history. He was a called a liar during the 2011 State of the Union Address, “chastised” by Governor Jan Brewer of Arizona, accused of being a modern day Hitler, attacked with racial slurs, and had just about every proposed bill and agenda challenged and/or struck down. Why all the hatred, resentment, and anger towards our Black president?

Now, lets look at our churches and the diversity in our worship. Martin Luther King Jr. said “it is appalling that the most segregated hour of Christian America is eleven o’clock on Sunday morning.” Sadly things haven’t changed much, according to The Multiracial Congregations Project led by Michael Emerson, a Rice University sociologist, only 8% of all Christian congregations are racially diverse in America. Only 8%, wowzers? Just in case you were wondering, a racially diverse church, is at least 20% of people other than the majority culture. From my experience and observations, the majority of churches that are multi-ethnic tend to be led by White pastors. Heck, I’ve even witnessed majority Black congregations led by White pastors. So, I’m sure you’re asking; well, why is that the case?

In my opinion, the reason that Whites can seemingly pastor multi-ethnic congregations much easier than their Black counterparts is because of the normative of White male leadership. Whites have historically been slave owners, been President(until now), been CEO’s, been coaches, been mainstream media personalities, been doctors, been lawyers, been judges, been bankers, been middle managers, and been just about every leader you can think of. In my opinion, because our world is so accustomed to White leadership, the very same expectation presents itself in the church, especially in those that are multiethnic.

So, what’s the solution? First, we need to have open dialogue about race in America, because its alive and well, there’s no getting around it. In addition, I firmly believe that Blacks, Whites, Asians, Hispanics, and all of God’s children in America need to desegregate ourselves. I mean really desegregate and do so with true equality and fairness. Minorities need to teach White children, coach White children, supervise White adults, lead White adults, pastor White people, legally judge Whites, defend Whites, financially advise Whites, manage Whites, medically care for Whites, pastor Whites, and vice-versa. If we’re ever to become a post-racial, we need these sort of things need to take place, and I believe the temple, mosque, synagogue, and church can lead the revolution

It takes a Village,

RevBmack

I “Fit the Description!”

A few years ago, I was leaving my neighborhood park at dusk and I had a “fit the description experience.” I was walking back to my house after playing a few games of pick-up basketball. On that evening something odd happened to me, I was stopped by two Prince George’s County police officers. They asked me where I was coming from, what I was doing, where was I going, my name and my address; they said I fit the description of someone they were looking for. Sadly, in America too often black men coincidentally always end up “fitting the description,” just because our complexions are black and brown.

I’m reminded of this event in my life, because of the recent murder of the 17 year-old #TrayvonMartin in Sanford, FL on the night of the NBA All-Star game. No I wasn’t stopped by a over zealous watch captain and, obviously, nor was I shot and killed, but like him that night, in the eyes of a white man with a gun and a notion of power, I too “fit the description.” Black and Brown men all over this country have been fighting this perceptive “description” for way too long; we’ve fit it driving while black, shopping in retail stores, going through airport security, patronizing a nightclub, as athletes, as entertainers, and fatally while walking in our own neighborhoods. Like you, I wonder what the “description” entails?

So now, as a result of #TrayvonMartin’s death, pastors, politicians, celebrities, pundits, radio personalities, and just about everyone who has heard about this story and has an ounce of compassion, are speaking out for justice to be served and the arrest of murder George Zimmerman. With the use of mass media and social media outlets the story of #TrayvonMartin is being brought to the forefront of our timelines to spread awareness on the negligence of the Sanford Police department and their handling of this murder case. It is my hope and belief that, with the national media attention that this #TrayvonMartin travesty is receiving, justice will be served!

Now with that being said, let me also encourage all of us to continue with the same passion and fervor for justice and accountability when black on black murder occurs as well. Too often, as a black community we find ourselves up in arms when a person of color is wronged by an individual of another hue; resulting in marches and protest that garner strong results. Just imagine the kind of impact that can be had if we used these same methods of protest and advocacy in our own communities to stimy the drug dealing, domestic violence, crime, and murder that pervades in our own communities. I sincerely believe that these same efforts being used to bring justice for #TrayvonMartin can be used to #LIFT our communities.

It Takes A Village,

Brandon McAfee

“Start-Up” vs Corporate

Recently I met with my boss, the CEO of a very large company that I’m apart of, and I expressed to him my desire to organize and start my own “start-up.” Graciously, he allowed me to share with him my passion to help people and communities, my vision to do this, and where I want to do this. I gave him what I believed to be the pros and cons of a “start-up” and for remaining apart of an established corporate organization. After hearing me out, my CEO began to talk to me about what he viewed as the cons of a “start-up” and the overwhelming pros of remaining in a corporate organization as he sees it.

His reason for staying corporate are:

1. Why start something new, when we’re already established.

2. You can do the same thing in a corporate situation that you can do in a “start-up.”

3. If you pay your “dues” YOU can be a corporate partner in about 10 years.

Now, I have to admit all of these reasons for remaining corporate are very enticing and intriguing, both financially and for job security, but I too have a dream…

 

It Takes a Village,

RevBmack