Forgiveness 101: It’s Going to Take Faith (7/27/14)


Today, as we finish up our last Sunday in our series, Forgiveness 101, I want to spend some time discussing the most difficult and challenging aspect of forgiveness. In my opinion, forgiveness is most challenging, when the people or person we are asked to forgive are those who are closest to us! In my opinion, there is no hurt, like the hurt, we experience from those close to us! There is no pain, like the pain, we experience at the hands of someone we know! There is no stronger anger, when the actions of those closest to us, provoke us to be angry! There is nothing more upsetting and discouraging when we have been deceived, lied on, betrayed, and stabbed in the back by those closest to us! I think The O’Jays said it like this:

(What they do!) 

(They smile in your face) 

All the time they want to take your place 

The back stabbers (back stabbers) 


All the time they want to take your place 

The back stabbers (back stabbers) 

I keep gettin’ all these visits from my friends,

yeah, what they doin to me 

They come to my house again and again and again and again, yeah 


So are they there to see my woman 

I don’t even be home but they just keep on comin’ 

What can I do to get on the right track 

I wish they’d take some of these knives off my back 


(They smile in your face) 

All the time they want to take your place 

The back stabbers (back stabbers) 

Low down… dirty… 


Get this, the O’Jays aren’t mad at their haters, or about the fact people are trying to take their woman, or even stab them in the back, but they’re mad because the haters, people trying to steal their woman, and stab them in the back are their those closest to them! I repeat, sometimes the people closest to us, will hurt us the most; and its the people closest to us, that’s the hardest to forgive! Not only is hard to forgive the people or person closest to us, but there are times when the hardest person to forgive is ourselves! Church you and I both know, that it’s hard to forgive me, myself, and I. If you know like I know, as people, we can be hard on ourselves! Do me a favor, turn to your neighbor, and ask them, do you need to forgive yourself?

It’s hard to forgive ourselves, because nobody knows our flaws, like we know our flaws! Nobody knows our deepest secrets, like we know our deepest secrets! Nobody knows how bad we messed up, like we know how bad we messed up! Nobody knows our sinful thoughts, like we know our sinful thoughts! No one knows that we lied, but we know we lied! No one knows that we stole, but we know that we stole! No one knows that we cheated on that test, but we know we cheated on the test! No one knows that we were unfaithful, but we know how unfaithful we were! No one knows we took that drink, but we know we had too many drinks! No one knows about our habit, but we know about our habit! No one knows, what we did, like we know what we did! No one knows what we should have done, but we know what we should have done! We keep struggling with the same issue, year after year because we haven’t forgave ourselves! 

Church, all I’m saying is, it’s hard to forgive ourselves! We can forgive Pookie, Junebug, Lisa, Johnny, Jane, and Harry, but when it comes to forgiving ourselves, we won’t do it! For some strange reason, we tend to be harder on ourselves than anybody else! In my opinion, when we refuse to forgive ourselves, we refuse to accept God’s forgiveness in our lives! By refusing God’s forgiveness, we refuse the work of Christ on the Cross! When we refuse the work of Christ on the Cross, there is no way that God can offer us salvation, and when we don’t have salvation, we book ourselves a 1-way ticket to hell!


On the other hand, as I read this pericope of scripture, perhaps the real reason that we struggle to forgive ourselves is BECAUSE WE CAN’T forgive ourselves! Let me say that one more time, because someone missed it, the real reason that we struggle to forgive ourselves is BECAUSE WE CAN’T forgive ourselves Ladies and gentlemen, in preparing for this sermon, it dawned on me, that you nor I have the power to forgive ourselves of anything! Only God has the power and ability to forgive our sins!

The GOOD NEWS is this, there is a God that can break every chain of guilt, shame, unbelief, perfectionism, self-condemnation, self-hate, low self-esteem, and un-forgiveness that we struggle with! There is a God, that forgives us for every wrong doing, slip up, and mess up! There is a God, that loves us, in spite of our flaws! There is a God, that loves us in spite of our shortcomings! There is a God, who loves us in spite of our sin, and there is a God who loves us, even when we don’t love ourselves! And today, in the book of Romans, we encounter Paul, the globetrotting Apostle, writing to Christians in Rome, to share his interpretation of the gospel message!

Like Washington DC is to America and Raleigh is to NC, Rome was the capital city of the Roman Empire. Because it was the capital, Rome was known to be very powerful, having a strong military presence, having an organized government, comprised of people who were upper- class, middle- class,  and the poor class. In Rome, there were the educated and uneducated, blue collar and white collar workers, religious and unreligious, and the Jews and Gentiles! Like Africans dispersed throughout South America, the Caribbean, and North America, the Jewish believers in the New Testament had been dispersed throughout the Roman Empire!

In this epistle, Paul is in Corinth writing a letter of introduction to the Christians in Rome, because he plans to visit with them while on his journey to do ministry in Spain. Furthermore, some scholars believe that Paul writes this letter to ask the church in Rome for money, to support his missionary assignment. This letter differs from his previous writings because, unlike his other epistles, Romans was written to a church that Paul did not start or had yet to visit. We don’t even find Paul addressing a particular issue or problem in this local church, but instead he writes in very broad terms about his understanding of salvation and justification. Paul’s main goal was to clear up any misperceptions about his theological views in the gospel message!! 

Beginning in chapter 1, all the way through chapter 16, Paul takes his time to share all his views on the hot topics in his day and time!! Paul addressed the Mosaic Law, Adam and Eve, Abraham, the holy Spirit, Jesus Christ, circumcision, justification, righteousness, salvation, love, sin, guilt, judgement, Christian behavior, civil authority, and even paying taxes! I would imagine if Paul was living in 2014, he would also address the hot topics of our day! He’d address child immigration issues at the Texas border, the Israeli and Palestinian conflict, the tension between Russia and Ukraine, Malaysian Airlines and missing planes, he’d tweet #bringbackourgirls in Nigeria, he’d talk about Eric Garner a man unjustly murdered by New York City police, he’d address gay marriage, gun violence in Chicago, teacher pay in North Carolina, and the state of our young people here in America! Paul wouldn’t be afraid to preach and teach about any relevant issues!

Now, as we shine the spotlight back on chapter 3, we find Paul addressing a trending topic in this text! The controversial issue that Paul is dealing with is the subject of justification and how the Jews and Gentiles receive its benefits! If you can, please keep justification at the forefront of your mind. Justification means to be upright, just, and made innocent of sin in God’s sight!  One more time, Justification means to be upright, just, and made innocent of sin in God’s sight! Now turn to your neighbor and say, Justification means to be upright, just, and made innocent of sin in God’s sight! 

The major problem that the Jews and Gentiles faced, is that they thought justification came through the Mosaic Laws and Old Testament traditions! The Jews thought that obeying the Decalogue or the 10 Commandments was enough to make them innocent in God’s sight! They thought that serving no false gods or idols, not taking the Lord’s name in vain, keeping the sabbath holy, honoring their parents, not killing or stealing, not committing adultery, not bearing false witness, nor coveting their neighbor’s property was enough to keep them clean and holy in God’s sight! Not only were the Jews misled, but the Gentiles were misled because they thought that circumcision and the Law made them Jewish, and upright in God’s sight. 

Church, for the Jews and Gentiles to believe that the Law or circumcision made them right with God, was them trusting in their own human efforts! When they put their trust in their human efforts, they deceived themselves into believing that their works, wit, and intelligence was enough to unlock the door to their forgiveness! 

Sadly, too many of us are guilty of trying to fix our lives by ourselves! We buy self-help book after self-help book, then we try to think positive thoughts, then we try watching Dr. Phil, then we read the daily horoscope, then we call Madame Cleo, then we search the internet to see whats wrong with us, or we grab our Bibles and try to be perfect and pious Christians! Part of the reason people think church folk are hypocrites, is because we act like we ain’t never been through nothing! I’m just blessed and highly favored! God is good, all the time, all the time, God is good! We’re so heavenly bound, we’re no earthly good! Just like the Jews and Gentiles, when we attempt to somehow forgive ourselves, we fool ourselves into believing that we have the power, ability, or creativity to actually achieve self-forgiveness! Paul says in verse 20, that the Law does nothing but make us aware of our sin, not save us from our sin! And for us to get to the place where we can truly forgive ourselves, we first need to realize that there is no way we can forgive ourselves, and then and only then can we embrace God’s plan of forgiveness through justification, as outlined by Paul!


Therefore, if the Law couldn’t make the Jews right with God, circumcision and false idols couldn’t make the Gentiles right with God, and we can’t forgive ourselves, then how do we begin the process of being made right with God (justification)? After all we’ve done, how will we and God ever view ourselves worthy of forgiveness? The first lesson the text teaches us is probably the hardest lesson for all of us to learn! Ladies and gentlemen, we begin the process of forgiveness and being made right with God, by recognizing We All Have Flaws!  Let’s look at what it says in verse 23 from the King James version, 3For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God!” Is that what your Bible says?? In the Good News translation it reads, “everyone has sinned and is far away from God’s saving presence.” In the New Living Translation it reads, “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.” In every translation and version, it says all, everyone, and errybody has sinned!! Not some! Not 2 or 3, Not the Baptist or the Methodist! Not the black or the white people! Not the rich or poor! Not the democrats or republicans! Not the Jews or Gentiles! Not the saved or the unsaved, but errryboody has flaws! We ALL have FLAWS that lead us into sin!

So, if we all have flaws and we’re all gonna sin, what makes us think that we have a shot at being perfect?! If we all have flaws, why you so hard on yourself? If we all have flaws, why set a standard of living for ourselves, that we can’t reach? If we all have flaws, why such unfair expectations? If we all have flaws, why you keep condemning yourself? If we all have flaws, why won’t you accept God’s forgiveness? The text clearly says, “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.”

Not only do we have flaws, but guess what, even folk in the Bible had flaws that caused them to sin! In the Old Testament, Father Abraham lied multiple times about Sara being his wife, and he doubted that God could give him children because of his old age. Noah, the man who built the Ark, was known for being a drunk. Moses, the man who led the people out of Egypt and across the Red Sea, killed a man at an early age. Jacob, a man who wrestled with an angel, had his name changed to Israel, was known for being a liar after he stole his brother’s blessing! Rahab, assisted the Children of Israel by hiding spies in her house, but she was also a prostitute! David defeated Goliath, was anointed King at an early age, wrote many Psalms, a man after God’s own heart, but had a man murdered and slept with his wife! King Solomon was a great and wise king, but was known to have had over 700 wives and 300 women on the side! Jonah had a God given purpose, but begin his ministry by running from God! Peter was a disciple of Jesus and the rock of the church, but he cut a man’s ear off and denied Jesus 3 times! Paul was known for killing Christians, but right now we’re reading his book! We find countless examples of flawed, messed up, imperfect, and sinful people in the Bible, but they still allowed God to turn their lives around and use them, despite how flawed they were! They said, “I might not be what I want to be, but thank God, I’m not what I used to be! Church, we can begin the justification process in our lives and become innocent in God’s sight, as soon as we recognize We All Have Flaws!

2nd Point

Not only do we need to know, the how of forgiveness and justification, but we also need to know the WHO! The text says in verse 24, 24But by the free gift of God’s grace all are put right with him through Christ Jesus, who sets them free.” It’s clear throughout the whole book of Romans, that men and women need to be put back right with God, due to the fall of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden! Adam and Even broke and separated our connection and standing with God. In the book of Genesis, as soon as Satan was allowed to come between God and mankind, our relationship with God was severed! Because of this broken relationship, the Bible reveals the story of man and God trying to FIX their relationship! 

So with that said, this is my 2nd point, in order for us to be justified in God’s sight, We All Need a Fixer to get the job done! You do know what a fixer is, right?? A Fixer is, someone who intervenes with authorities for a person in trouble (usually using underhand or illegal methods for a payment)”  I believe we’ve all seen a fixer at work, come on don’t play holy on me! I’m sure some of y’all watch a fixer every Thursday night in the fall and spring?? Anyone ever heard of Scandal?? Anyone ever heard of Mrs. Olivia Pope, the professional fixer, played by the talented Kerry Washington?? Whenever something goes down with President Fitz, Olivia Pope fixes it! Whenever something goes down with Harrison, Olivia Pope fixes it! Whenever something goes down with Huck, Olivia Pope fixes it! Whenever something goes down with Abby, Olivia Pope fixes it! Whenever something goes down with Cyrus, Olivia Pope fixes it! Whenever something goes down, they call Olivia Pope, because she’s the fixer! Sadly, just like you and me, whenever something goes down with Olivia, she can’t seem to fix her own mess! Which is why We All Need a Fixer who’s never lost a case, We All Need a Fixer who’s never lost a patient, We All Need a Fixer who’s never fell asleep on the job! And We All Need a Fixer who’s always there for us!

Beloved, the only way for us to forgive ourselves and be put right in God’s eyes to allow Jesus to fix us! The truth is, we can’t change others, we can’t change ourselves, we can’t forgive ourselves, and neither can we fix ourselves! God, our father in heaven, loved us so much, that he sent us his only begotten son to fix us! Jesus is our fixer! Jesus is the one and only fixer! Jesus is our mediator! Jesus is our intercessor! Jesus is our bridge to God! Jesus is our middle man! Jesus is our connector! Jesus is our missing link! It’s Jesus and only Jesus that fixes all our flaws! 

Why do we need Olivia Pope, when we have Jesus? 

Why do we need Buddah, Krishna, or Muhammad when we have Jesus! 

Why do we need Seagrams, Johhny Walker, and Budweiser when we have the living water in Jesus? 

Why do we need the dope man, when we have the hope man in Jesus? 

Why do we need the good time girl, when we have  the Good Shepherd in Jesus? 

Why do we depend on people, places, and things to fix and help us, when we have the bright and morning star in Jesus? 


Can’t nobody do us like Jesus! 

Can’t nobody fix us up like Jesus!

Can’t nobody love us like Jesus!

Can’t nobody change us like Jesus!

Have I got a witness this morning?

 Can anybody testify this morning, that all we need is Jesus? 

Do you believe that Jesus is enough? 

Do you believe that Jesus can pick you up, turn you around, and place your feet on solid ground?

****Jesus Object Lesson****

Old Testament brief History of atonement

3 Volunteers


Free Gift

Sticky notes with sins on them

Jesus lie on the altar as the perfect sacrifice 


3rd Point

Lastly, not only do we need remember that We All Have Flaws, know that We ALL Have a Fixer in Jesus, but we need know WHAT completes the justification process! The only way that we can allow forgiveness to be complete in our lives is to HAVE FAITH IN THE FIXER!  If we go back and read verse 25 and 26, they both inform us that it requires faith and belief for Jesus to be our Fixer! If we want our lives fixed, it’s going to take faith! Paul is suggesting in this text that God only requires us to have FAITH  in Jesus! Paul is saying, yes all of our flaws cause us to sin! Yes, we’re all guilty of sin! Yes, we’re all imperfect! Yes, God can and should judge us according to our sins! However, if we just believe and have faith in his son, God will give us a clean slate! If we just believe and have faith in his son, God will look the other way! If we just believe and have faith in his son, God will throw out the case! If we just believe and have faith in his son, God will dismiss the charges! If we just believe and have faith in his son, God will pronounce us not guilty!

All it takes is belief and faith in his son! He’s not asking much from us, just belief and faith! God is saying, have faith, in what my son did on that old rugged cross 2014 years ago and believe that it still has power today! God is saying, have faith, that the blood of Jesus can cover you! God is saying, have faith, that even though he died on a Friday night, 3days later he got up on a Sunday morning! If I were Baptist, I’d say, “Earrrrrly Sunday Morning!” God is saying, have faith, that Jesus got up with all power in his hand! Some of us may be asking, what is FAITH again? FAITH is placing our complete and 100% trust, hopes, beliefs, concerns, cares, and love in a God we have not see physically seen, yet acknowledging all of the evidence that point to him!

We can have FAITH because the BIBLE says in Hebrews ch,13, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forevermore. We can have FAITH because the BIBLE says in John ch. 1, In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. We can have FAITH because the BIBLE says in Colossians ch. 1, For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things have been created through Him and for Him. We can have FAITH because the BIBLE says in Matthew 18, “For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.” We can have FAITH because the BIBLE says in John 14, “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.”

And when we have, we understand that we can do all things through Christ that strengthens us! In the Old Testament the question is asked, is there anything to hard for the Lord?? St. Mark, is there anything to hard for the Lord?? St. Mark, if God be for us, who can be against us??? St. Mark, what can separate us from the Love of Christ?

By Faith……

We can walk in victory

We can walk in power

We can receive his healing

We can live on purpose

We can be a witness for Jesus

We can finish what we start

…….Just preach…..

God’s Evidence- Acts 14:17

Acts 14:17 (GNT)

But he has always given evidence of his existence by the good things he does: he gives you rain from heaven and crops at the right times; he gives you food and fills your hearts with happiness.”

Family, in a world where planes have gone missing and shot down, innocent people killed, wars fought over religious differences, young girls kidnapped, black men harassed and killed by law enforcement, innocent children left in sweltering cars, inner-city violence, and personal pain/struggle, its easy to be discouraged and shout, “GOD WHERE ARE YOU?!” 

If we can keep it real for a few seconds, after reading the newspaper, watching the news, scrolling through our timelines, and dealing with the stuff in our own lives, sometimes it seems as if God doesn’t exist! Sometimes, it seems as if God is either on vacation, or not real! Be honest! Raise your hand, if you’ve ever felt like this before? I HAVE!!!

Well, I want to encourage you today, by reminding you and everyone reading this blog, that GOD is all around us! Now, I hate be cliché–ish, but have you ever stopped to seriously think about the simple things of life? For instance, who woke you up this morning? How do our bodies manage to heal themselves? How is it that everything in nature works in concert together? How is it that Earth spins perfectly on its axis? How is it that you’ve made it to where you are today and some of your friends didn’t? Why did you get hired for the job? Why didn’t you get sick? Why didn’t you get caught? How come you got the scholarship? Why did you get the loan? How come you didn’t get harmed in the car accident? How did you make it out the hood’ and your friends didn’t?

Evidence prints

I’m sure that there are many many more questions that you could ask, but more than likely, they might go unanswered! The only answer I have to my questions, is to look at the evidence! For me and my life, all of the unexplained blessings i’ve received in my, are just trails, clues, and the fingerprints of God’s evidence in my life! For me, it all leads to God!

Today, I challenge you to look at the evidence from a God’s eye view!

If this BLOG was a blessing to you, I ask that you share it with others, so all can be blessed!

Much Love,



Forgiveness 101: Finding Our Way Back Home (7/20/14)

Text: Luke 15:11-24

 11 Then Jesus said, “There was a man who had two sons. 12 The younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of the property that will belong to me.’ So he divided his property between them. 13 A few days later the younger son gathered all he had and traveled to a distant country, and there he squandered his property in dissolute living. 14 When he had spent everything, a severe famine took place throughout that country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed the pigs. 16 He would gladly have filled himself with the pods that the pigs were eating; and no one gave him anything. 17 But when he came to himself he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired hands have bread enough and to spare, but here I am dying of hunger! 18 I will get up and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; treat me like one of your hired hands.” ’ 20 So he set off and went to his father. But while he was still far off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion; he ran and put his arms around him and kissed him. 21 Then the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ 22 But the father said to his slaves, ‘Quickly, bring out a robe—the best one—and put it on him; put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23 And get the fatted calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate; 24 for this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found!’ And they began to celebrate. 

Subject: Forgiveness 101: Finding Our Way Back Home



Maya Angelou once wrote these words, “I long as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.” It is my belief that in this journey called life, we will all at sometime or another leave what we consider to be our home. At this very moment, sitting in your pews, many of you may be reflecting on the subject of home right now. Perhaps some of you are thinking that home is the city and state which you live in, or that home, is the house or apartment building that carries your address. Home may be the place where our favorite sports team plays, such as the Washington Redskins or the sorry Dallas Cowgirls! 

Home may be the place where some of our fondest childhood memories of joy and pain were experienced. Home may be the place where you met your first childhood friends. Home is that place we all had to go when the street lights came on. Home is the place of some of our most intimate secrets. Home could be the place where our loved ones reside, whom we often miss so much when were apart from them. Home is a place of safety and refuge. If we’re lucky enough, home can be that place where we’re used to eating those delicious and soulful home-cooked meals. I don’t know about your house, but I loved coming home to mom’s homemade buffalo wings, potato salad, dad’s fried fish and collard greens, or my wife’s sweet potato casserole and stuffing. We all know about home-cooked meals! You know what I’m talking about, that fried and baked chicken, smothered pork shops, macaroni and cheese, collard greens, butter beans, yams and 7-UP pound cake! Oh and let us not forget the sweet tea. I’m talking about home!Home is that place where no bed anywhere else, has ever quite felt like our own bed. Where our pillows are broken in specifically for us. Home is that place where we can lounge how we want to lounge, walk around how you want to walk around, and relax and be comfortable like no other place. I’m talking about home y’all!

Home is that church, where we learned how to sing. Home is the church where we first walked down the aisle and gave our life to Christ. Home is the church where we first got baptized. Home is the church where your children we’re baptized! Home is the church we go to, for homecoming service! Home is that church where we were taught the Bible stories in Sunday school and learned about God. Home is that church where we enjoyed the fellowship and the preaching. Home is your home church.

Home is the college or university we called home for 4 years, that we go back to for homecoming; Im talking about North Carolina A&T, Shaw, UNCG, UNCC, Virginia State, Elizabeth City State, Fayetteville State, Duke, Virginia Union, St. Augustine, North Carolina Central, or even UMASS. We all have some fond memories about our school days. Being away at college was the home where we exercised our independence that was not ours while living at home with our parents. Free to stay up all night long. Free to stay out as long as we please, free to dance the night away. While away at college, we can call home and say one thing to our parents, all while doing a totally different thing. The freedom not to attend class, the liberty to not wake up and go to church, and the freedom to meet new people. Some of us still have friends that we met there, still talk to and look forward to seeing at homecoming. For most of us, home is a great place!  I ask you again, have you ever been away from home before?

The dictionary defines home as the place where one permanently lives and in other cases the place where something or someone flourishes. Meaning that home can be and is for some of us more than just a place where we lay our heads or have lived at. Here this! If home is also a place where someone or something flourishes at, that means home doesn’t have to be limited to a physical place! As people, we can grow and flourish in wherever and whatever place or situation God allows us to be in! Home can be that career that we excel in. Home can be that positive atmosphere that we do our best in. Home can be the place where our gifts and talents flourish the most in.Home is where we find love, peace, joy, acceptance, support, and did I say love? Home can be the place or situation where we are mentally, physically, financially, socially, and spiritually flourishing into our best selves! 

I believe we all have a home! I believe Michael Jackson was at home on the stage! Michael Jordan was at home on the court! Oprah is at home on our television set. The late-great Maya Angelou was at home when she had a pen in her hand! Denzel Washington is at home on the big screen. It was once said that “Home is where the heart is.” I don’t know about you, but if home is the place where I can grow, flourish, and feel loved– then, I love being at home! Home is truly where my heart is!! I know I’m not by myself, Ray Charles and Willie Nelson loved home so much, that they sang Georgia because Georgia was always on their mind! If we read between the lines, Dionne Warwick and Luther Vandross (I don’t know if it was big or small Luther) sang “A house is not a home, if there’s no love there!” In The Wiz, Diana Ross sang, “When I think of home I think of a place where there’s love overflowing, I wish I was home, I wish I was back there with the things I been knowing!” If we go hip-hop, Sean “Diddy” Combs rapped, “I’m coming home, I’m coming home, tell the world I’m coming home!”


Nevertheless, for some strange reason, no matter how much love we find at home, no matter the acceptance, no matter the joy, no matter the growth, no matter how good the food is, no matter how great our relationships are, or how comforting home is, we all decide to leave Home one way or another. If you don’t believe me, then go with me again to the 15th chapter in the Gospel of Luke, where we read about a young man that had everything he needed and could want at home, but still chose to leave home!

In this chapter, we encounter our matchless messiah, Jesus Christ preaching and teaching in the town of Perea, while in route to his ultimate destination– Jerusalem. In the midst of his journey to Jerusalem, Jesus stirs up some controversial discussion amongst the Pharisees, as to why he hangs out and eats with the sinners. The people wanted to know why Jesus being who he was, hung out with the crowd that would be considered the least of these. The word had spread through the grapevine that Jesus surrounded himself with a group of people who according to the text– were sinners. Jesus was known to hang around some shaky characters! If I can pause for a moment, perhaps this teaches us that is Christ-like to hag around some sinners! If all our friends know Jesus, how can we share the light of Christ with the folk who don’t know Jesus? Please note that Jesus is currently preaching in the town of Perea, which means, “on the other side!” Jesus had no problem hanging “on the other side” of town! Jesus didn’t mind hanging across the tracks! I like Jesus’ style, he hung out with the common folk! Jesus hangs out with people who didn’t know the scriptures, didn’t go to church, didn’t know who Richard Allen was, or Kirk Franklin! Instead, Jesus hung out with folk who loved to partake in communion, listened to Teddy Pendegrass and Young Money, and frequented the gentlemen’s club! That’s the folk Jesus surrounded himself with! To explain why Jesus fellowships with the kind of people he hung with, he shares a parable about the lost sheep, the lost coin, and the prodigal son who left home! 

It is in the parable of The Prodigal Son that we encounter a young man who learns the hard way that “there is no place like home.” In this story, we see a young man who was anxious to leave home, and experience freedom outside the comfort and supervision that he was used to growing up. As we examine the life of the young man, we notice that his story and testimony may be similar to our story and testimony. This young man has reached a certain age and he is ready to leave home. This son who is nameless, reaches a point in his life, where he is now ready to pack his bags, say his goodbyes, and leave the incubator that has molded him into the man that he is. He was no longer interested in being at home with his family. Not only is he ready to go, but the young man also wants his share of his father’s inheritance. 

The text lets us know, that the son received his  whole share of the property, animals, and money set aside for him since birth from his father. Daddy gave him the cars, the money, the houses, the clothes, the jewelry, the investments, and his share of the family business! The father made sure that his young son was sent out into the world prepared to make a decent life for himself. Now church I have to admit that while reading this text I was a little confused as to why this young son was in such a rush to leave home. I mean his older brother still lived at home, life couldn’t have been that bad. The text says nothing about him going away to the local state college or joining the military. The text doesn’t say anything about him having a fight with his father and being kicked out the house, it just says this young man was ready to leave home. 

Sadly, as we move along in the text, we notice that this son went buck wild when he left home. It says that he packed his bags and went to a distant country. The description of the country being distant infers that he went to a place totally opposite of what his home life was. At home he grew up in a Jewish household, but now he was living in a world that didn’t embrace a Jewish style of life. He was now in a place where the Greek culture was dominant. At home he was raised in an environment that had a strong belief in God, but now he was in a world that wanted nothing to do with his God. At home he was raised in an environment that promoted education and strong family values, but now he was living in a world where the kids dropped out of school and came from broken families. At home he saw examples of respectable men and women, but now he was living in a place where the men disrespected the women and treated them less than the queens that they were. Home was a loving and supportive atmosphere, but now he was in an atmosphere that was cold and neglectful. Home was a place where he could grow and hone his skills, but now he was in a place of stagnation. Jesus tells us that the young man went into this distant country, a place that was antithetical and the opposite of what his home was like! 

This young man lost his mind. In my opinion, he not only left his physical home and location, but he left his spiritual and mental home! He left home, because he was now in a place where he was no longer flourishing and growing! Remember our working definition of home; its a place where people live and where someone or something flourishes and grows! The scriptures say, he lost his mind, he spent all that he had, he wasted all of his money, he squandered all that his father gave to him, and he found himself working with in the fields with the pigs, but eating the food that the pigs ate. It says he was living undisciplined, immoral, self-indulged, and riotous. He was living what Ricky Martin would call, “La Vida Loca.”  

Now, in my opinion to be at home mentally, physically, financially, socially, and spiritually is to be in God’s will! Ideally, I believe that God wants us to be healthy, whole, prosperous, and balanced mentally, physically, financially, socially, and spiritually. To me, when all 5 areas are aligned with God’s purposes for our lives, we are at home. Furthermore, when we strive to live a life of obedience and worship to God, we are at home! The Bible says in Romans 12, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” In other words, when we allow our whole being to be committed to God, we are at HOME in God’s will! Home is living in God’s will! Home, is where God wants us to be! Is this making sense? I hope I’m not confusing you!

However, when we leave home, we are outside of God’s will! Whenever we leave where God wants us to be mentally, physically, financially, socially, and spiritually; we then leave HOME, because we have left God’s will! When we leave God’s will, we leave home! When we leave home, which is out of God’s will, we then begin to live a life of sin! When we live a life of sin, we have to live with the consequences of sin! We all sin, but God doesn’t want us to deliberately and unrepentantly to live in sin! Living in sin causes us to live in shame! Living in sin causes separation from God! Living in sin causes selfishness! Living in sin causes us to keep secrets and live a life of secrecy! Living in sin causes us to lose our way! The young man in this text left home, which caused him to leave God’s will! Which caused him to live a life characterized by sin, selfishness, shame, secrecy, and separation from God!

So, if being at home is the place where God desires for us to flourish and grow mentally, physically, financially, socially, and spiritually; but on the flip side, leaving home is where we live a life of sin, shame, selfishness, secrecy, and separation from God, how does the Prodigal Son and those of us who have also left home, find our way back HOME in God? 

Relevant Question

That’s the question of the hour, how do we like the Prodigal Son, find our way back home into God’s will and how do we as the Body of Christ, assist in this process?


Church, I believe that the most important factor in finding our way back home and helping others to find our way back home is the act of FORGIVENESS! In my opinion, while there may be many themes in this story, above anything else, the importance of forgiveness resonates with me! As men and women of God, forgiveness is the key that opens the door back to God’s will and purpose for our lives; and likewise forgiveness is how we help others get back in line with God’s will! With that being said, there are three things that I want to share about FORGIVENESS, as it relates to this text!

The first thing that FORGIVENESS causes us to do is to Respond in Humility! I believe that it is impossible for us to forgive others and to forgive ourselves without humility! Humility is one of the keys to forgiveness! When we Respond in Humility, we are able to self-examine our own lives, and not think too highly of ourselves! Humility helps us to not be prideful and arrogant, but modest, loving, and a person of service! Humility allows us to emulate Jesus, who was said to be meek and mild! Humility helps us to seek forgiveness when we’re wrong and seek forgiveness even when we’re not in the wrong! It takes courage to Respond in Humility!

In verses 18-20 of the text we see 2 examples of humility in action; it reads, “18 I will get up and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; treat me like one of your hired hands.” ’ 20 So he set off and went to his father. But while he was still far off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion; he ran and put his arms around him and kissed him.” Church, it takes great humility to admit when you have messed up! The son in this text finally realized that leaving home was not God’s plan for his life! He finally realized that leaving home caused him to live a life of sin. However, I praise God for this son, because he humbled himself and decided to go back home and ask his father for forgiveness! He realized the error and mistake of his ways, but wasn’t too proud to leave where he was, what he was doing, and who he was with to go back home and seek forgiveness! That speaks volumes to me because there are times when we all need to respond in humility and seek forgiveness! Someone in here today needs to humble themselves and ask God for forgiveness, ask someone that you harmed for forgiveness, and also ask yourself for forgiveness! Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves! St. Mark, it doesn’t matter what it is, or how long ago it was, we all need to humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness! It may be a spouse, your best friend, your neighbor, a church member, a child, a co-worker, or even that person you saw looking back at you in the mirror this morning, but whoever it is, I encourage you to ask for forgiveness!

Not only does the son Respond in Humility, but the father also responds in humility! Watch this– the text says, “But while he was still far off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion; he ran and put his arms around him and kissed him.” This is significant if you understand Jewish culture. See back in those days men would where very long tunics or robes to cover their legs! In that culture, it was humiliating and shameful for a man to show his bare legs in public! In order for the father to run to his son, he had to lift up his tunic so that he wouldn’t trip and fall while running! The father was willing to show his legs and be humiliated, so that his son could be forgiven! That’s what the father will do! A real father will do anything on behalf of his children! Now if our earthly father will do this, what about our heavenly father? The father will humble himself and send his son through 40&2 generations to earth to be humiliated and to die on an old rugged cross for our sins! Church, just like this father and our heavenly father, we are asked to Respond in Humility and forgive others who have wronged us!

The 2nd thing that FORGIVENESS allows us to do is Restore broken Relationships! Church, on our journey back home to God’s will, there will come a time when broken relationships need to be repaired and restored. Let’s be honest, there are some people that we are still at odds with or at odds with us, because of an offense that was committed! Its hard to be friends with someone who hurt you! Its hard to be friends with someone who broke your trust! Its hard to be friends with someone who stole from you! Its hard to love someone who cheated on you! Its hard to love someone who left you! Its hard to like someone who did you wrong! Its hard to be in the presence of someone who turned their back on you! However, God is telling us, that true forgiveness should and has to compel us to Restore and Repair Broken Relationships!

In verse 20, the major reason that the FATHER ran to his son, was to restore the son’s broken relationship with the family, but also with the community! In preparing for this sermon, I learned that if a Jewish son lost his inheritance among Gentiles and returned home, the community had a tradition of taking a large pot, breaking it in front of the son and yelling, “you are cut off from your people!” So the father ran to the son, not only to restore him back into the family, but also to keep him from being cut off and ostracized by the community! Relationships are key in forgiveness because God has created us for relationships! 

In the Garden of Eden, God walked and talked with Adam in the cool of the day! God had a relationship with Adam! The Bible says,  that God is a jealous God! God doesn’t like for us to have relationships with any other false Gods!When we have healthy relationships, we are in God’s will, and when we are in God’s will we are at home! In order for us to be at home in God’s will, our vertical and horizontal relationships have to be restored and repaired! Sin causes separation from God and others, but forgiveness causes us to restore and repair broken relationships! 

When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, people are able to be all that God has called them to be! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to save marriages and build healthy families! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to build healthy churches and communities! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to walk together as brothers and sisters in Christ! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to stop the violence, stop the fighting, put down the guns, and stop the killing! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to enact policies and pass legislation that all people can benefit from! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we are able to respect each other’s differences! When we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, like the brother of the Prodigal Son, we have to realize that everybody won’t be happy about our forgiveness! However, when we Restore and Repair Broken Relationships, we can do just like this father does! Bring out the best robe, bring out the ring, bring out the sandals, get the fatted calf and kill for a celebration! When the father brings out these fine clothes, a ring, and animal, he forgives and restores his son back to his rightful place! This was a cause for celebration!

In other words, the last thing that FORGIVENESS causes us to do, is Rejoice! This truly is the best part of the whole story! The text reads, let us eat and celebrate; 24 for this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found!’ And they began to celebrate” The son was living a life of sin, which equals death, but now he’s back in the father’s will, which equals life! Rejoice! The son was out there lost, but now he’s found! Rejoice! The son left home, but now he’s back home! Rejoice! The son was on his way to hell with gasoline drawls on, but now he’s got eternal life, Rejoice! The son was living with the effects of sin, but now he’s living in the overflow of forgiveness, Rejoice! The son was sinking deep in sin, Far from the peaceful shore, Very deeply stained within, Sinking to rise no more; But the Master of the sea, Heard his despairing cry, From the waters lifted him, Now safe is he. Love lifted him! Love lifted him! When nothing else could help, Love lifted him. REJOICE!! 

Church, this son received the father’s forgiveness and found his way back home in God’s will, so we have a reason to rejoice! We can rejoice, because we are this son! We too were sinking deep in sin, but God heard our cry, so REJOICE! We we’re out there doing everything that we were big and bad enough to do, but God forgave us, so REJOICE! We were given a 2nd chance by God, so we all have a reason to REJOICE! God looked past our faults and saw the best in us, so we have a reason to REJOICE! If an earthly father can celebrate his son coming back home, can you imagine the celebration in heaven when we do what God calls us to do, it ought to make us REJOICE! 

Is there anybody in here that has a REJOICE in their soul? Is there anybody in here who is willing to Rejoice? 

  • Can you rejoice that God woke you up this morning?
  • Can you rejoice that God has allowed us to see another day?
  • Can you rejoice over his many blessings; food on the table, car in the driveway, clothes on our back, roof over our head, a reasonable portion of health!
  • Can you rejoice just because God’s been good!
  • However you rejoice, just rejoice! Clap your hands, shout, cry, lift up your hands, say amen, shout hallelujah, just rejoice!