Guess Who’s Back? I am, and I’ve been away for way, way, waaaay too long! I haven’t written in this blog since August of 2020, when I was appointed as the pastor of St. John A.M.E. Church in Baltimore, Md. As a matter of fact, as I’m writing this blog post, I’m thinking to myself, do people still even read blogs? Have blogs given way to social media posts, TikToks, and YouTube videos? I guess I’ll find out soon enough, huh?

It’s been over three years since I’ve written in this blog, and I won’t dare try to detail everything that’s happened in my life over the past three years. I’ll just share a few details, talking about the lowlights and the highlights— stuff that’s truly meaningful to me.

Well, for starters, a major change took place in my life on August 16, 2021—I got divorced. Now, I don’t know anyone who gets married to then get divorced, but unfortunately, my marriage wasn’t working out, and the dissolution of it was for the best. I hope and pray she’s massively happy!

While divorce is no cakewalk, trying to co-parent is definitely no cakewalk—it’s been a journey, to say the least! A rough, bumpy, stressful, at times bitter, tense, vindictive, and rarely cooperative journey. I wish I could say that co-parenting was 100% smooth and easy, but it hasn’t been that way; and because I’m committed to being honest in my writing, I have to tell the truth. It’s been rough!

From 2020 to 2023, my son, Super Mighty Max, was living with his mother in Virginia, and since the last weekend of July 2023, he’s been living with me in Maryland. And since Maxwell has come to live with me, it’s been a beautiful journey! It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been beautiful. Being a single parent to a differently-abled child has taught me a lot. It’s taught me a lot about Maxwell. It’s taught me a lot about myself. It’s taught me a lot about his mother. It’s taught me a lot about people in my life. It’s taught me a lot about the benefits and healthcare system in the state of Maryland. It’s taught me a lot about the education system and Baltimore County Public Schools. Being a single father to a differently-abled child has made me more empathetic to other caregivers in similar circumstances. Suffice it to say, I’ve learned a lot over these past three months. I’ll say more in future blog posts.

Another highlight in my life over the past three years is that I’m still the pastor of St. John A.M.E. Church. In A.M.E. terms, I’ve received four appointments thus far, and I’m loving it! It’s a great church, comprised of great people. God has truly been blessing our time together as pastor and people over these past three years and counting! Reminiscent of the early church in the Book of Acts, St. John is growing, with persons joining and getting saved each weekend—it’s a beautiful sight to witness and see. Not only are we growing numerically, but we’re also growing in faith, finances, and fun! We strive to be a church that makes a wholistic impact, and we’re doing just that. If you haven’t experienced Jesus at St. John—what are you waiting for?

Over these past three years, I’ve done and experienced a lot. I’ve met new friends and grown apart from old friends. I’ve jumped in the dating pool and jumped out; lost someone special in my life, and have learned a lot of valuable lessons—some painful ones! I’ve moved a few times—living in Anne Arundel County, Baltimore City (I loved that), PG County, and now in Baltimore County. I’ve attempted to purchase a home, only to learn that the current real estate market is a beast! Sheesh! I’ve traveled near and far and have had amazing experiences on these trips! I’ve gone to more concerts in the past two years than I have in 15 years, and I’ve enjoyed it! I’ve lost weight, gained weight, and have begun losing it again! LOL, I even became an ambassador for a popular African clothing line! Overall, these past three years have been great!

Now, I’m sure you’re asking yourself, will we have to wait another three years to get a blog post? I don’t know. I doubt it! As I journey to 40, I plan on writing more and sharing more. As a single father to a differently-abled child, I plan on writing and sharing more about that experience. As a pastor, I too believe that I have something to share! So yes, I plan on writing more! Perhaps you’d like me to write about something more specific, just let me know! In the meantime, feel free to share this blog, comment, and like! Don’t forget to follow me on social media @pastorbrandonomcafee and @daddyandsupermightymax.

Peace and Blessings,

BOM